I guess this wasn't always common sense to me either.
There have been times when I felt a need complain about anything in order to fill up silent space in an awkward conversation. Don't you find it easier to relate to some people around negativity than around positivity?
For example: "Well of course I chose the longest line in the supermarket. Murphy's law."
Sometimes it's best to just give someone a smile though, rather than filling silence with a complaint.
It's nice to see people becoming more aware of how much of a disservice complaining is—for our own self and for others.
Our ability to change our perspective is related to our ability to be neutrally minded. Acting from a neutral mindset, we can choose to see the underlying (or obvious) good in every situation.
I found a Baba Ram Dass quote today that sums this up nicely:
“Everything in your life is there as a vehicle for your transformation. Use it!”
Oh, and remember, being for your good, isn't always the same thing as feeling good. Be thankful for the medicine. No matter how bitter.
Love and light,
Sirgun Kaur Khalsa